Lonliness. It can be dreadful, but it's there for our own good

Feeling lonely can suck. It's the feeling of being around yourself 24/7 but not really feeling like anyone gets you, can connect to your emotions, or moments of confusion and despair. In this technological crazed society, it's easy to feel lonely because no one really takes the time to pick up the phone and call each other anymore. Everyone is just a Facebook message and text away these days, and honestly, it hurts sometimes. It hurts to go to bed with your own thoughts wishing someone could comfort you and it hurts knowing that not everyone will understand how to relate to you and cater to your needs. It hurts knowing that as you get older, the hugs seem less and the check ins seem far and few, and it hurts to know that for the most part, we will have to get used to this feeling because it's a part of life.

However, loneliness allows us to develop a strength within our selves that may have been lacking before. We learn not to expect so much from people, especially if we are naturally giving people ourselves. We know that when someone fails to text us back in our moments of need, that instead of hating that person for failing to reply, we can do something ourselves to fill a void and provide ourselves with comfort. There is a resilience that is built through loneliness. As human beings, we sometimes feel that a love interest will perhaps fill any void that we may have had. But the truth is, no human being can do that for us, we gotta do it for ourselves even though it hurts sometimes and even though there are many days alone, these days allow us to tap into who we are as people and begin the journey of becoming our true selves and our own best friends. So will there be more lonely days ahead? Yes there will, and sometimes it will get to us. But rest assured, we will be able to handle it a lot better than we did before.